RegulationreflectionFixed foundation
01
When I am frustrated, I can pause before responding.
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B.A little like me
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D.Mostly like me
E.Very much like me
Item regulation-01 · Focus: frustration · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
RegulationreflectionFixed foundation
02
I notice the early signs that I am becoming overwhelmed.
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E.Very much like me
Item regulation-02 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
RegulationreflectionFixed foundation
03
After a stressful day, I sometimes take my frustration out on other people.
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B.A little like me
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D.Mostly like me
E.Very much like me
Item regulation-03 · Focus: frustration · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
RegulationreflectionFixed foundation
04
I can adapt my response when plans change unexpectedly.
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E.Very much like me
Item regulation-04 · Focus: flexibility · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
RegulationreflectionFixed foundation
05
When someone criticizes me, I often respond sharply before listening.
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E.Very much like me
Item regulation-05 · Focus: repair · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
Past patternsreflectionFixed foundation
06
I reflect on how the adults who raised me shaped my expectations of parenting.
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Item childhood-01 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
Past patternsreflectionFixed foundation
07
I can recognize learned behaviors from my upbringing that I do not want to repeat.
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D.Mostly like me
E.Very much like me
Item childhood-02 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
Past patternsreflectionFixed foundation
08
I can identify both helpful and unhelpful examples from my childhood.
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Item childhood-03 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
Past patternsreflectionFixed foundation
09
I assume that the way I was raised is the only appropriate way to raise a child.
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Item childhood-04 · Focus: flexibility · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
Past patternsreflectionFixed foundation
10
I can reflect on difficult experiences from my past at a pace that feels manageable.
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E.Very much like me
Item childhood-05 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
EmpathyreflectionFixed foundation
11
I try to understand what someone is feeling before offering a solution.
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E.Very much like me
Item empathy-01 · Focus: connection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
EmpathyreflectionFixed foundation
12
When someone cries, I usually want them to stop rather than hear what is wrong.
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B.A little like me
C.Somewhat like me
D.Mostly like me
E.Very much like me
Item empathy-02 · Focus: connection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
EmpathyreflectionFixed foundation
13
I can offer reassurance without dismissing the other person's feelings.
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E.Very much like me
Item empathy-03 · Focus: connection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
EmpathyreflectionFixed foundation
14
I consider how my tone of voice might affect someone who feels vulnerable.
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E.Very much like me
Item empathy-04 · Focus: connection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
EmpathyreflectionFixed foundation
15
I can stay emotionally present when a person is upset about something I consider small.
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E.Very much like me
Item empathy-05 · Focus: patience · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
CommunicationreflectionFixed foundation
16
I listen fully even when I strongly disagree.
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E.Very much like me
Item communication-01 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
CommunicationreflectionFixed foundation
17
I can apologize without adding excuses or blaming the other person.
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E.Very much like me
Item communication-02 · Focus: repair · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
CommunicationreflectionFixed foundation
18
When I am challenged, I focus more on winning than understanding.
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E.Very much like me
Item communication-03 · Focus: accountability · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
CommunicationreflectionFixed foundation
19
I can raise a concern without insulting or threatening someone.
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E.Very much like me
Item communication-04 · Focus: boundaries · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
CommunicationreflectionFixed foundation
20
I ask questions when I am unsure what another person means.
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Item communication-05 · Focus: reflection · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
BoundariesreflectionFixed foundation
21
I believe children can learn accountability without being humiliated.
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Item discipline-01 · Focus: safety · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
BoundariesreflectionFixed foundation
22
I can explain a boundary in a calm and age-appropriate way.
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E.Very much like me
Item discipline-02 · Focus: boundaries · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
BoundariesreflectionFixed foundation
23
I believe fear is necessary for a child to respect an adult.
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E.Very much like me
Item discipline-03 · Focus: safety · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
BoundariesreflectionFixed foundation
24
I would consider what need or feeling might be behind a child's challenging behavior.
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Item discipline-04 · Focus: development · Choices are self-reported, not objectively scored as a parenting evaluation.
